2016 Goals with #NewYearNewMomma
The new year is just around the corner and I know everyone is contemplating if they will even bother setting some new goals this year. My birthday is very shortly after New Years Day, I am turning 26 and I am starting to feel very confident in my place in life. I am ready to challenge myself with some new goals. I also have some exciting blog news to tell everyone for new year! Let’s start off with the goals I have for the upcoming year.
My Personal Goals for 2016:
- Re prioritize my relationships.
This year I am doing it right. They say you can’t love anyone until you love yourself, and I need to take better care of myself physically to care for my family for a long time to come. I’m making myself my number one priority in 2016, and that might sound selfish but I am from-the-heart doing it for self-less reasons…
“In the end I am the only one who can give my children a happy mother who loves life.” -Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard
My happiness depends on me and naturally, everyone knows that if momma ain’t happy – no one is happy. Some of this means working on my mentality on those bad days we all have somethings as well as pushing myself to get into better physical condition. I would like to actually gain some of the weight I have lost over the last couple years of having and raising my children. It’s by far been the busiest 3 years of my life and I didn’t think my life prior to having kids was boring or anything. So my number one person this year is…
I am also bumping my fiance back up a couple places in my relationship ladder.
Okay…? That sounds weird right, but let me explain…
I recently read an article regarding a sort of conviction towards parenting and placing your children above all and how this results in many of the adult relationships deteriorating over the years focused on child-raising. You can find the post here, How American Parenting is Killing the American Marriage from QZ.com. I found it posted from a couple friends on my facebook feed and even shared it myself because it hit me hard.
I am so guilty of putting my children first in this matter and I can understand how doing so might relate to the divorce rate in our country being so high, especially after the children leave home. It made me realize that even I have in some sort of way, replaced my fiance with our two sons. I love my fiance very much but unfortunately, I feel as though over the last two years of adjusting to motherhood and staying at home, I probably haven’t given him the attention I used to or even made enough time for our relationship to grow as it was before having children.
In this upcoming year, I am going to make a conscious effort to make more time specifically for our relationship and strengthening it for the years to come. I want our sons to grow up witnessing the love between their parents and giving them better role-models in that respect.
Need more time with your significant other? Try instilling a new weekly routine like this…
In addition to rearranging my inner relationships, I am also planning to spend more face time with the friends and family that we love most. I would really like to have a family dinner at least once per week as well as making more play dates for the boys and dinner dates with our best friends. As soon as we became parents – we became a rather home-based family and sort of stayed in our own little chaotic world. Now that the boys are a little older, it will be much easier to come out of our shell a little more and see some familiar faces again.
- Oldest Son Fully Potty Trained.
This will be the 5th official go at potty training with my oldest son, now 2.5 years old.
We started introducing the new little potty and the concept of going in it around 18 months old. I’ve tried a handful of different incentive techniques, purchased 2 different types of child potty chairs, and probably watched “Daniel Tiger Goes to the Potty” at least 50 if not 75 f#%cking times.
I think the issue is still his potty seat as well as the matter of forcing himself to walk away from an activity or t.v show to relieve himself. Both potty chairs are awkward for him to run and sit into AND aren’t high enough to cover his little spout – I’ve cleaned pee off places I never thought I’d have to.
Our new plan is to try one of the seats you put on top of the adult sized toilet, as well as a small step stool so he can get up and down when he needs to. I’m absolutely sure if we don’t have a comfortable way for him to go potty, he won’t really ever be willing to walk away when necessary.
- More Meatless Meals!!! This might seem like a random goal and it totally is!
After building up a comfortable amount of recipes I can easily throw together for my meal-planning days, I sometimes feel like we eat too much meat. I prefer to rotate proteins everyday which means having a lot of meat stored in my fridge/freezer (and I have the tiniest freezer!!!). I’ve been tinkering with the idea of “Meatless Monday” for a while now and have been looking online for some better inspiration for planning more family meals that won’t miss the meat. I feel like starting at the beginning of the year might be just the last little push I need to start actually instilling a meatless agenda.
I will not be doing an actually “meatless Monday” though I will be more thoughtful in planning one or two meals throughout the week that will not have meat in them. Not only will this challenge my cooking skills a little bit, but it will be great for our budget AND ceasing my fiance’s casual habit of eating 2 lbs of bacon per week…
Check out some of the meals I plan on making:
My Exciting News!
I’m sure you have your own goals in mind for the upcoming year and I’m double sure that some of us other moms can relate to them. I never realized how sweet and caring the community of motherhood is until I entered it myself, there’s nothing like the knowing another mom’s struggle and assuring them you have been there too. Since I started blogging, my mommy community has gotten much bigger and I have finally found an amazing group of women to blog exclusively with. I will be introducing you these mom blogger’s throughout the new year and I am very excited to share that we are starting 2016 off with a small Instagram challenge known as: #newyearnewmomma.
Each of the blogger’s here have different goals, new perspectives and want to help other moms reach their own goals for the new year.
Check out these lovely mom bloggers, each with different focuses on mothering/parenting!
Samantha from MWJ is leading the Instagram Challenge focusing on different hashtags for every day in the month of January to keep up the motivation in a fun, connected way!
Be sure to follow along on Instagram to join the #newyearnewmomma challenge with us! You do not have to be a mother to join – this can be inspiring for everyone this year.
The Healing Mama is kicking the year off with the New Year, New Momma Fitness Routine!
Erin shares her plan to get Financially Fit in 2016
Got some books you have been having a hard time getting to? Here’s 5 tips from My Reading Spot to help earn more time for Reading!
I hope some of these other momma’s and I have inspired you with our goals to plan something awesome for yourself in the upcoming year. Goals don’t have to be big, more often than not, it’s the small changes that lead to bigger ones.
I want to end on saying that I hope all my readers have a very wonderful, safe and happy Holiday with their families and loved ones!
You can follow along on my Instagram to see snaps of the family and what we will be up to, including Momma Wants Java’s Instagram Challenge!